HOW YOU ARE MANAGING "BEING DIVERSITY" (2)
In the previous post I wrote about cultural diversity. Today I’d like to write about sexual diversity.
Sex-generic-sexual orientation indicates the erotic and affective willingness to engage in sexual activities with people of the other sex, same sex, or both and applies to sexual behavior,sexual desire and the contents of sexual fantasies.
Living in Europe in the 21st century we take for granted many rights and freedoms that we have, such as feeling free to live and freely express our sexuality,others must respect it without any doubt. But what happens when you relate to people who have another way of seeing sexuality,when you live in a country where homosexuality is a crime, when certain attitudes, for you very normal, can be misunderstood and cause a problem at work?
We don’t have to go far from Europe to find ourselves in shock when it comes to even talking about sexuality. There are countries where declaring the sexual option is very badly seen, in others making an inappropriate approach to a person (same sex or opposite sex) can bring you more than one serious problem. In others, a single woman (and more being a foreigner) is the equivalent of a prostitute, sometimes a simple miniskirt justifies all the evil thoughts and deeds that attract (a woman must dress correctly).
There are countries where sexual diversity is punished, in others poorly seen but determines a social stigma and rejection; there are also countries where without penalized sexual diversity, if propaganda is doing so (spreading sexual orientation) and there are also countries where social discrimination exists reaching very high levels of violence (article Amnesty Internacional).
That’s why it’s very important to know the terrain you’re stepping on and to know the perception that local citizens have of sexual diversity through what they express (or in many cases what they don’t express).
One case that surprised me a lot is that of a family with same-sex parents, in this case it was two women. In their circle, mothers found no problems or faced complicated situations during their international experience but have been aware that if there have been problems being harassed their child at school. although same-sex marriage is legalized in some countries, there are many more where the fact that a child has two parents or two moms, is seen as an abnormality.
Even in countries with greater acceptance of sexual diversity, thereare differences between living in a large city or the capital or in municipalities not so large and less cosmopolitan.
The advice given to me by expats who have faced problems regarding their sexuality during their international experience are:
- Be discreet. Sexual diversity may not be a problem for you, but try to think about others about how they can react.
- Be cautious. When it comes to making an intimate rapprochement with people of the same sex.
- If you’re in a country with homophobic laws, keep your personal life private and be aware that even if you have clandestine contacts, there’s always some risk.
- Stay informed. Investigate LGTBI rights legislation in the country or region in which you live. (
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